I’ll be honest…to an extent I am afraid of black men. The individuals that frighten me the most are the black men who walk around looking like bullshit. What do I mean? The black men who walk around looking like thugs, hoodlums, and gangsters are frightening to say the least (especially if they’re walking around in a large group). They are easy enough to recognize. These individuals typically walk around with their pants halfway off their ass, speaking slang or Ebonics, and holding their groins like they have a yeast infection or something worse (for more on this topic click here).
Maybe I’ve been conditioned to think this way. However, as a general rule for myself I go out of my way NOT to make eye contact or smile at random black men. Why? Because most black men take that as a sign to try and “talk to me.” The reason why I do this is because a “No thank you” from me usually turns into a ten-minute argument ending with me screaming, “Leave me the fuck alone asshole.” Black men don’t usually get the point until I become loud and angry. I can tell a black man that I have a man and he will continue to harass the hell out of me.
“What your man got to do with me?” black men typically ask.
“Not a damn thing…get lost,” is usually my reply.
I think most men on average would take that as a sign to move on, but not black men.
I don’t care what anyone says. Black men on average CANNOT take rejection. Some of you might say, “Well, other races of men can’t take rejection either.” That is complete bullshit as far as I’m concern. Other races of men who have hit on me have respectfully moved on upon being rejected. These other races of men approach me better and more politely than black men. They don’t come at me with some bullshit line like, “Hey shawty you look good in those jeans.” Most importantly of all other races of men don’t make me feel threatened. A black man on the other hand will harass the hell out of me if I have the nerve to turn him down. Usually our CONFRONTATION will end with me being called a “bitch” or some other derogatory term.
This is ONE reason why I have said I’m not mentally attracted to black men. What woman in her right mind would find this type of approach acceptable? I’m sure there are some women out there who do respond to this type of crap, but any self-respecting woman would keep it moving. There is nothing that turns me off more than a man who doesn’t know how to present himself like a gentleman.
What really kills me about this whole thing is the fact that black men actually have the nerve to wonder why black women walk around "looking mean," unapproachable, or why we don’t smile in their direction. Some even have the nerve to imply that we (black women) “switch it up” for white men or other races of men, but act like we can’t stand black men. Well, the reality is these other races of men COME CORRECT. Black women don’t have to switch up a thing for them. We can be ourselves and politely say no or yes without them getting carried away. The reason we “mean mug” the hell out of black men is because YOU (black men) take shit too far.
Being mean and hostile towards many of you is the only way you can get the point. It's better to mean mug the hell out of a black man and have him NOT approach me rather than smile at him and actually "give off” the impression that I’m approachable, which then turns into a ten minute argument. Point blank Black women want to avoid the bullshit that comes with smiling too hard at black men.
Black men reading this post don’t act like you can’t see what I’m talking about. How many of you have homeboys or friends who can’t take rejection from a black woman? I’m sure you’ve witnessed one or two of them go off the “deep end” after being rejected by a woman. If you have witnessed this type of nonsense and were shocked by it imagine how black women must feel when we’re the targets of this type of behavior.
I really want to hear from the ladies on this one. How many of you have tried to politely turn down a black man only to have it turn into a full-fledged confrontation? How many of you go out of your way to avoid smiling at black men because you know in the back of your mind what’s bound to happen next? When this happens does it frighten you? Be honest.
Black men reading this post don’t act like you can’t see what I’m talking about. How many of you have homeboys or friends who can’t take rejection from a black woman? I’m sure you’ve witnessed one or two of them go off the “deep end” after being rejected by a woman. If you have witnessed this type of nonsense and were shocked by it imagine how black women must feel when we’re the targets of this type of behavior.
I really want to hear from the ladies on this one. How many of you have tried to politely turn down a black man only to have it turn into a full-fledged confrontation? How many of you go out of your way to avoid smiling at black men because you know in the back of your mind what’s bound to happen next? When this happens does it frighten you? Be honest.
