So yesterday I received an email (big up to that individual...thank you for sharing) with a link to an article basically questioning the parenting skills of black mothers (not just black single mothers but all black mothers). Check it out (click the image below and then click the image again to enlarge it)....
My two cents....
1) The title of the article is FOUL. Someone should tell this guy that Barack Obama's white mother had help (which alot of black mothers don't have). Barack Obama was not only raised by two white women (his mother and grandmother), but he was also raised by his WHITE GRANDFATHER (who was the primary male figure in his life along with his Indonesian step-father for a long time). Where was his black father? Somewhere on "vacation" with a bottle in his hand. Would we have a black/biracial president if Barack's father were active in his life? I don't know. The man was self-loathing and self-destructive. He probably would have screwed up young Barack Obama's life. So, to add to this title one might ask: Does it take a white man to turn a black boy into a man??? Because Barack Obama's black father didn't have a thing to do with it.
2) In the article the author talks about the boys he went to school with and how they played hooky from school. He points out the fact that their grandSONS are now doing what they did. However, somehow he believes all the blame for the plight of the grandSONS can be placed on black mothers. What's wrong with this picture? It seems to me the problem rest with BLACK MEN and BLACK BOYS here. Judging from this article it is also a generational problem. It would be a different story if the author had used the word GRANDCHILDREN, which would mean black girls, are playing hooky too, but no he said grandSONS. I have always believed it takes a man to raise a boy into a man. So, I don't see how this can be blamed solely on black mothers (who I hold primarily responsible for turning girls into women). If the grandfathers were playing hooky and the fathers were playing hooky what the heck were the grandSONS to do but follow in the footsteps of their forefathers???
3) Let me expound on the role black men play in the failure of black boys. I don't for one second put a large portion of the failure of black boys on black mothers. I believe it is the woman's job to raise black GIRLS up into women. The failure of black GIRLS falls on the shoulders of black women. The failure of black boys is a DIRECT failure of BLACK MEN. Most of the fucked up things we see with black BOYS should be pointed back at the fathers. Where the hell are they when shit pops off??? Where were the grandfathers when the grandsons were making the same mistakes they made??? Every fucked up rapper who has ever had some type of "good" content in his music has placed the blame for his plight squarely on the shoulders of his absentee father.
Though I believe black women need to make better choices in men I also believe black men are reaping what they sow with this fucked up generation of black boys who the world fears (including myself). Had they stepped up to the plate a long time ago we wouldn't have these problems we see today. Black men's stock is going further and further down the drain and it's because of their inaction.
Though I believe black women need to make better choices in men I also believe black men are reaping what they sow with this fucked up generation of black boys who the world fears (including myself). Had they stepped up to the plate a long time ago we wouldn't have these problems we see today. Black men's stock is going further and further down the drain and it's because of their inaction.
People act like they don't see the bullshit. The generations born from 1970-present are scary to say the least. We have black men today who are not only disconnected from black women but they are disconnected from their own damn children. Is that the fault of black women? NO, not in most cases (and despite what any idiot believes it's not the fault of the courts either). Since it takes a man to raise a boy we see today that we have a village full of BOYS (some old and some young) because black women are raising most black boys ALONE. Black men need to stand the hell up and stop making excuses.
4) The author mentions his oldest daughter's mother checked out at some point. I think this might be one reason why he is bitter. It explains alot.
4) The author mentions his oldest daughter's mother checked out at some point. I think this might be one reason why he is bitter. It explains alot.
5) I agree with the general argument of the article. He said many things that I have said on this blog. However, I don't agree with his belief that this B.S. with black boys falls on the shoulders of black mothers. When we have more black women in college than black men there is something wrong and it's not on the female side. When someone writes an article like this one and its main focus is black boys (and their education) there is something wrong and it's not on the female side. I'm just saying...put the blame where it belongs...in this case on absentee, deadbeat, dead end, good for nothing fathers.
If any black man has something to say about what I have said here come see me. I mean every word of it. You fuckers need to get yourselves together. If not for yourselves then do it for future generations of black boys.
